tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.comments2023-07-15T08:56:14.052-07:00::::::::::Becoming::::::::::Dr. Joanne Cacciatorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10863060782827061955noreply@blogger.comBlogger1303125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-73855542796389454102017-11-16T20:24:34.548-08:002017-11-16T20:24:34.548-08:00Incredible Joanne. I’m very sorry you didn’t get t...Incredible Joanne. I’m very sorry you didn’t get to keep your sweet girl. You are amazing. I love your huge heart. ❤️ Pam McGawAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13159748489486059700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-39900109355268282112017-06-27T08:23:46.912-07:002017-06-27T08:23:46.912-07:00When my son died as a victim of suicide in June 20...When my son died as a victim of suicide in June 2014 I was asked by a friend to attend a healing session and service at her church. I was brought up christian, Church of England, attended Sunday school for 12 years but left as I entered my teen years. After that I never really believed in any religion. I did attend the church with my friend. The Reverend was a former Catholic nun for six years. The church is a "Spiritualist" church. They believe that life continues after death. <br />The Reverend started the homily by saying "I know many of you in this chapel have lost a loved one, many were children. I don't know how you have the strength to get up each day" She was very compassionate, her message was heartfelt, many of the congregation were crying. Even though the Reverend had no children of her own she felt our pain, she understood. We don't have bibles in our church but we do believe in a Creator, God call it whatever. Mr. Osteen has no formal training, he is an entertainer on TV. He makes a lot of money from his ministry. <br />I wonder which one of his children he would send to God? I wonder........Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04765560805969590773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-23218563493720377062016-06-23T08:38:26.768-07:002016-06-23T08:38:26.768-07:00This is very upsetting
My only daughter age 19 wa...This is very upsetting <br />My only daughter age 19 was killed 18 months ago ...<br />It's tragic what we as parents are enduring ,but to have a so called minister say we are attention seekers <br />Is just uncalled for ...<br />My daughter was killed <br />How would he act if his child was killed .....Josette Tharpnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-9472944960539071212016-03-07T10:51:11.708-08:002016-03-07T10:51:11.708-08:00Thanks so much for this! Bereaved parents never ge...Thanks so much for this! Bereaved parents never get recognize, and such words are so refreshing and honest to truth! Thank you for this!!!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11414328591025631578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-36007261763374501502016-03-04T14:17:47.029-08:002016-03-04T14:17:47.029-08:00You are a very special human being. Hugs to you. ...You are a very special human being. Hugs to you. Wish we lived closer to each other. Would love to know you better. I'm in N.E. Texas. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785191171433377722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-77999785373031616962015-11-24T20:31:09.286-08:002015-11-24T20:31:09.286-08:00OMG Jo - you could fill a book with these encounte...OMG Jo - you could fill a book with these encounters! I love reading your stories because they are so filled with wonder. And love. Thanks so so much for sharing x Vicki NZnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-19910100975180773422015-11-17T18:41:55.358-08:002015-11-17T18:41:55.358-08:00What?! A Brindle Mastiff AND the name Cheyenne? I&...What?! A Brindle Mastiff AND the name Cheyenne? I'm in awe!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-29917265342397650222015-11-17T10:25:35.437-08:002015-11-17T10:25:35.437-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss of Mags,... just as...I'm so sorry for your loss of Mags,... just as you were trying to make her life worth living. What an amazing story. Thank you for being open to feel - the good, the bad, all of it - with your whole self. I am sure the effort you put forth, to expose yourself to loving and potentially losing her, made an special impact on her last days. Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03910724060715591409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-43908847285434274852015-11-17T10:18:41.570-08:002015-11-17T10:18:41.570-08:00My heart weeps for all of the Cheyannes, for all o...My heart weeps for all of the Cheyannes, for all of the Mags, for all of the love and the pain. I am just grateful for you and all of the other Jojo's of the world that love, and care, and hope, and listen when the Universe speaks. I love you dear friend- now and for always.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755609419326535406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-81778938983006266842015-11-17T07:36:02.892-08:002015-11-17T07:36:02.892-08:00Oh Joanne I am so sorry for your loss. The love an...Oh Joanne I am so sorry for your loss. The love and the compassion you surrounded Mags with is so beautiful! I know she was so grateful to have her faith in humanity restored in her last days, what a contrast; she experienced the lowest among us and the greatest among us as well. Its so beautiful to know that she is with Cheyenne and that they both now are always with you and watching over you! My heart hurts so much for your sadness but rejoices knowing how important you being in Mags life was and the peace and acceptance you gave her was priceless. Thank you so much for taking care of her and for all that you were to her and thank you for sharing your journey! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686728034940426321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-71047200891258145482015-11-17T07:35:15.896-08:002015-11-17T07:35:15.896-08:00Oh Joanne I am so sorry for your loss. The love an...Oh Joanne I am so sorry for your loss. The love and the compassion you surrounded Mags with is so beautiful! I know she was so grateful to have her faith in humanity restored in her last days, what a contrast; she experienced the lowest among us and the greatest among us as well. Its so beautiful to know that she is with Cheyenne and that they both now are always with you and watching over you! My heart hurts so much for your sadness but rejoices knowing how important you being in Mags life was and the peace and acceptance you gave her was priceless. Thank you so much for taking care of her and for all that you were to her and thank you for sharing your journey! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07686728034940426321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-59273488184466982312015-11-17T06:03:02.316-08:002015-11-17T06:03:02.316-08:00(((hugs))) Crying as I'm typing.. your soul ...(((hugs))) Crying as I'm typing.. your soul is simply beautiful, Jo. I have no more words..CandJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08295182199374315315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-24344262126846655932015-11-17T05:37:49.109-08:002015-11-17T05:37:49.109-08:00Love those moments.Love those moments.Railshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081133839902588496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-18226938897566927462015-11-16T21:46:42.296-08:002015-11-16T21:46:42.296-08:00I googled osteen and decided check out this page. ...I googled osteen and decided check out this page. I have listened to a few of his sermons on tv.( the only pastor who doesn't ask for or gave number wanting money) I don't read his books. I had no idea he wrote that. Why won't he apologize? Is it his or his wife's decision. Unfortunately the only way he would understand is if he suffered such a loss. I don't wish that.<br /><br /><br />I'm sorry for all those who have lost a child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-26083932095987866792015-11-16T20:54:52.995-08:002015-11-16T20:54:52.995-08:00My beloved Ella's death rocked me to my core. ...My beloved Ella's death rocked me to my core. I believe she is with my son Bear, but I just love and miss them both more than I can describe. I'm so sorry that Mags died. I'm sorry. Big hugs!Mama Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15448908179398529689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-89504933573190771812015-11-16T20:48:32.852-08:002015-11-16T20:48:32.852-08:00What a beautiful story Joanne. You truly are a an...What a beautiful story Joanne. You truly are a angel among us and thank you so much for your compassion and your heart. Mags was finally able to experience the love she so deserved before she left this earth. Thanks for all you do and you really inspire me to want to do better everyday. Big hugs.....Mary Ann Schmelz<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08796280363662046464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-63742479710680422542015-11-16T19:53:12.374-08:002015-11-16T19:53:12.374-08:00OMG! The bittersweetness of this story. I just don...OMG! The bittersweetness of this story. I just don't have the vocabulary to articulate each moment you described. Rest in peace dear Mags. I can't believe the beauty in the person (Cheyanne) and the dog that you found in the end. Love to you. xo MariMarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01735460668591410421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-73766595827809043822015-07-01T14:58:20.627-07:002015-07-01T14:58:20.627-07:00Oh Joanne, this is extraordinary. I have spent qui...Oh Joanne, this is extraordinary. I have spent quite a bit of time looking and feeling and reading the story of you and Chemakoh, and all the others who stepped up to help this beautiful being. I am so moved, and grateful for your actions, your compassion, your energy and devotion. Thank you for sharing this. Deeply inspiring!<br /><br />with love, <br />LuciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-72100453460380028052015-06-26T20:12:52.442-07:002015-06-26T20:12:52.442-07:00Thank you Dr. C, a capitol C for compassion. I am...Thank you Dr. C, a capitol C for compassion. I am deeply saddened for my clients, family, and friends that have experienced a loss of loved one quickly and traumatically. I am even more saddened that Mr. Olsteen has not learned or has forgotten what compassion is about. Nor has he learned that we grieve because we love. And to ask any man, woman, child, brother, sister, grandparent, spouse to "get over it, move beyond it, suck it up" is simply saying to forget loving that individual that has passed away. Perhaps I will be praying for him tonight, that he can awaken with love, compassion, and understanding. I close with this message:<br /> “However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them?”<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16032878107838733784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-69685438952201354942015-06-26T07:35:37.281-07:002015-06-26T07:35:37.281-07:00I feel that you have a valid point. Some people le...I feel that you have a valid point. Some people leave the church because they have become disenfranchised. God is just fine with you reading the bible and living like Christ. The problem is most people have forgotten how to do that. Jasonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-6920748950046849562015-06-25T21:04:31.604-07:002015-06-25T21:04:31.604-07:00Dr. C,
Thank you for this. Thank you for being a ...Dr. C,<br /><br />Thank you for this. Thank you for being a voice for our broken hearts. I was moved by your words and wrote my own letter. I'm posting here and emailing:<br /><br />Dear Joel,<br /><br />Right now, I sit at my computer weeping as I approach the 3rd anniversary of my beloved middle child’s death. Kyndrid would be 3 years old on July 7th. Instead, I wait with anticipation as the physiological response, cellular, implicit, and explicit memory of my brain and body begins to once again crash onto my world. The death of my daughter was the death of my former self. Each year, as I approach the anniversary of her death, and her birth, I recall what it was to see her dead body, and to carry my own dead body around after we both died. This is not something I have chosen. This is written on my cells. My body is programmed to love her, to need her, to long for her presence. Just as our bodies and brains can instantly recall the feeling of Christmas morning, the smell of our childhood home or the cold splash of the first swim of summer, my body can recall the experience of spiritual and psychological death that happened when my daughter was born lifeless. I sit with my heart, my mind, my spirit and my body as I prepare for deep mourning in the coming days. I sit, not because I want attention, not because I am not willing to accept her death, not because I want to wallow. I will mourn deeply because I am her mother and she is my child. I mourn deeply because she is worth that. I mourn deeply because just as my body produced life sustaining milk for her with no living child to feed, it also produces unending tears to mourn the entire lifetime we missed together. I did not choose this. I am not wallowing in self-pity. Quite the opposite, in fact. Rather, I am drowning in overwhelming love for another. A love bigger than it appears you can fathom.<br /><br />I am appalled, sickened and confused that a person claiming to be deeply connected with God would choose to shame me for loving and mourning my child who died. What, exactly, is your understanding of the love of God? Which history of Jesus’ life have you read? Clearly, the Bible wasn’t your choice of reading or you might recall Jesus’ commitment to being with those in suffering, particularly marginalized populations. If we are to truly live as Jesus lived, our hearts must open and extend to those who are hurting the most. We must bear witness, see their sorrow, sit with their souls, and listen to their hearts. <br /><br />I ask you to please, please, engage in the conversation. Take up Dr. Joanne Cacciatore on her offer to attend her training on Compassionate Bereavement Care. Simply come to the table, willing to learn. And, when you arrive, I fully expect an apology for myself, my husband, my 3 children and all of my broken-hearted friends who walk this unchosen path. Humility is a characteristic of wisdom, not weakness. <br /><br />Show up. Be humble. Learn something.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09334462740122277548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-11840951736032030152015-06-25T19:52:04.229-07:002015-06-25T19:52:04.229-07:00I don't give a flying f#<¥ what Joel Osteen...I don't give a flying f#<¥ what Joel Osteen says bc i know he's a con man, no pastor should be a millionaire, but he owes all the other bereaved parents an apology! We aren't attention seeking, we grieve what we love. I will love my son til my last breath so of course I will grieve for him til my last breath! You can block us and delete our comments on social media Joel but you'll never shut us up! We are the most passionate of all parents!Joey C Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01996468059562111438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-31050805233809306912015-06-25T19:35:51.893-07:002015-06-25T19:35:51.893-07:00Joanne, beautiful <3Joanne, beautiful <3Deedeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14904455992502610559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-20166723878339745592015-06-25T18:22:51.406-07:002015-06-25T18:22:51.406-07:00Jo-Jo, Fifteen years later and I still ache for th...Jo-Jo, Fifteen years later and I still ache for the part of me that is missing. Unfortunate that many have no idea how to respond or act about child loss. I was also told at church that I was sinning by grieving, that I should rejoice that she received early passage into Heaven. Who tells a Mother who just wants to hold her child again something such as that??Gypsy Rodriqueznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984330758590198929.post-47507776604569611962015-06-25T17:17:18.985-07:002015-06-25T17:17:18.985-07:00Joel Olsteen has been about Joel since the very be...Joel Olsteen has been about Joel since the very beginning. His own father doesn't even endorse him as a minister. I am not wasting too much emotional energy with anything he has to say. I'm so thankful I am catholic. You sure don't see Pope Francis shaming bereaved parents.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03861038172442403600noreply@blogger.com