Thank you to the families of the
MISS Foundation and
Parents of Murdered Children who participated in this story. Especially, thank you Myles.
We can, as a society, do better. We truly can.
BEREAVED PARENT SURVEY by MISS
Foundation
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Total Responses: 569
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Age of child at death:
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Before birth
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176
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31%
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Birth-28 days
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106
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19%
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1 month-2 yrs
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116
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20%
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2 yrs-8 yrs
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24
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4%
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8 yrs - 18 yrs
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44
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8%
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18 yrs or older
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44
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8%
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no response
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59
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10%
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Mother
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497
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87%
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Father
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72
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13%
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100%
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Program Importance:
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Very
Beneficial
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Beneficial
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Not
Beneficial
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No
response
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Support groups
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317
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159
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44
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49
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Peer contacts
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348
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156
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19
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46
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Newsletter
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135
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142
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88
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204
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Memorial Svcs
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344
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140
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29
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56
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Conferences
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116
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168
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81
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204
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Risk Reduction Ed
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179
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120
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76
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194
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Very
Beneficial
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Beneficial
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Not
Beneficial
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No
response
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Support groups
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56%
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28%
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8%
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9%
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Peer contacts
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61%
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27%
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3%
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8%
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Newsletter
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24%
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25%
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15%
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36%
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Memorial Svcs
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60%
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25%
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5%
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10%
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Conferences
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20%
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30%
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14%
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36%
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Risk Reduction Ed
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31%
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21%
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13%
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34%
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Was the relationship between you
and your spouse/partner strained after your child's death?
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yes
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331
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58%
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no
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228
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40%
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no response
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10
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2%
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Have you ever considered divorce
or separation?
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yes
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183
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32%
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no
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373
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66%
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no response
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13
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2%
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Do you feel that your
spouse/partner grieved differently than you?
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yes
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512
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90%
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no
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48
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8%
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no response
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9
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2%
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Did you and your spouse/partner
receive marriage counseling?
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yes
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74
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13%
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no
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480
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84%
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no response
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15
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3%
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Did you attend support groups
together?
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yes
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199
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35%
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no
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355
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62%
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no response
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15
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3%
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Have you divorced since the death
of your child?
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yes
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41
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7%
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no
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510
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90%
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no response
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18
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3%
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If you have surviving children,
did you notice a change in their behavior after the death of their sibling?
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yes
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264
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46%
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no
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113
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20%
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no response
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192
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34%
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Have your other children (child)
received counseling or therapy?
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yes
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100
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18%
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no
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268
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47%
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no response
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201
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35%
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Have your spiritual beliefs
changed since your child's death?
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yes
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399
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70%
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no
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156
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27%
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no response
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14
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2%
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If so are they:
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weakened
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strengthened
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not
changed
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no
response
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123
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288
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90
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68
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22%
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51%
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16%
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12%
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Were you satisfied with the level
of compassion given by:
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very
satisfied
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satisfied
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not
satisfied
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no
response
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hospital personnel
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256
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128
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142
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43
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funeral home staff
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311
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149
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76
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33
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first responders
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242
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166
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92
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69
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family members
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251
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183
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131
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4
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friends
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222
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205
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136
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6
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spiritual leaders/caregivers
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201
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116
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211
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41
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very
satisfied
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satisfied
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not
satisfied
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no
response
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hospital personnel
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45%
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22%
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25%
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8%
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funeral home staff
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55%
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26%
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13%
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6%
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first responders
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43%
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29%
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16%
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12%
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family members
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44%
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32%
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23%
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1%
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friends
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39%
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36%
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24%
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1%
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spiritual leaders/caregivers
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35%
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20%
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37%
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7%
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Do you have a subsequent child
born after the death of your child?
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yes
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141
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25%
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no
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406
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71%
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no response
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22
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4%
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was it:
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planned
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106
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19%
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unplanned
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32
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6%
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no response
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431
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76%
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Did you hold your child after your
child died?
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yes
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419
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74%
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no
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137
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24%
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no response
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13
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2%
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If so do you regret your decision?
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yes
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5
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1%
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no
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407
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97%
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no response
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7
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2%
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If not, do you regret your
decision?
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yes
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73
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53%
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no
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21
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15%
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no response
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43
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31%
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Have you used drugs or alcohol
since your child's death?
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yes
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163
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29%
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no
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399
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70%
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no response
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7
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1%
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If so, did you use drugs or
alcohol prior to your child's death?
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yes
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123
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22%
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no
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204
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36%
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no response
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242
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43%
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1 comment:
*tears. Thank you, Joanne. This story is beautiful. I'm so so glad you were a part of it. I know Myles was a big part of it, too, for bringing us together, and for making this happen.
xoxoxox
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